I divorced my abusive, alcoholic ex 10 years ago. We have 1 dc aged 12 and have been no contact for about a year because he was really affecting my ds's mental health. My ds was happy about this.
He has never paid maintenance regularly, but has given me lump sums. His df died 2 years ago and he gave me £8000 from his inheritance, so I didn't pursue any cm from him. It works out to approximately £333.00 a month and, as he doesn't work, I considered that a reasonable amount.
He doesn't work because he's disabled and an alcoholic. I work and don't get any benefits and I put £4000 in savings for my ds and bought a car with the rest.
Out of the blue he phoned ds last week, but he was drunk and ds told him he didn't want to speak to him when he's been drinking and said bye. Exh said ok and rung off. Then today I've just had a txt from the bank to say he's sent £100 and I don't know what to do about it.
He never does anything without an ulterior motive, and it's really triggered me. What's he up to? I don't need or want the money even though I know that morally he should pay it. I've blocked him on everything and I don't want to speak to him, but I know he'll quiz dc about what the money is spent on.
Should I send it back?
( sorry about the essay!)