Anyone ended up married to someone who lived hours apart from you when you first met/dated?

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Just as the title really. i am online dating and often match with people a good 3 hours away as i travel for work. annoying, one person im chatting with who seems great, lives 3 hours away. that said, ive been online dating for a year now and hes the first person i have clicked with!

any success stories before i getting carried away swiping all over the place?

I met my fiancé online. We lived 3 hours apart. We had a ldr for 4 years and then moved in together. Been together 15 years 😊 getting married next year

how did you find it initially? this new person i am seeing it is easy to spend 2/3 nights a week together logistically should it develop, despite the distance, so it could work but i don't know if/when to bring up the issue of distance! it isn't a problem to me but guess it could be for them!

Yep, me and my DH (married 15 years) were 200 miles apart. Long distance for about 18 months before he moved to be with me

ps congratulations :)

Yes, married 20 years, we were living 400 miles apart, met in the middle after a few months emailing and phoning (no Skype then!)

dun1urkin how did you find it especially at the start?

‘Rules’ were one weekend at mine, one weekend at his, one weekend off
We both knew it was serious pretty much straight away, which I think made it easier for both of us

Yes , my husband and I lived 3hrs apart when we first met. For the first two years of our relationship we only saw each other on weekends due to work and distance. We've been married for 3 years now. It was difficult , but with effort you can make it work.

Yes, i did. We both lived about an hour outside london (in opposite directions) so met in London for our first few dates. Then i moved 3 hours away from him (already arranged before we met) and sent him the first awkward “why don’t you cook me dinner on saturday and i’ll Drive up to you” message (i figured that way if it was awkward or i didn’t enjoy the time, i could just jump in the car and leave after dinner - it would mean a night driving home, but better than having an unwanted guest in my house.)
Luckily my judgement was right, he was lovely (and had made up a spare bedroom for me so there was no pressure), and we fell into a pattern of commuting at weekends - me one weekend, him the next. A year later we moved in together, now married and expecting 2nd child.

To be fair, i am very introverted and living in each others pockets probably wouldn’t have worked

Yes - we met on a group holiday but DH lived 200 miles away. He moved up after 18 months. I quite enjoyed just seeing each other at weekends but the travelling hit too much for a while.

(There was about a month gap after we first met to seeing each other again, we spent hours and hours on the phone in that time, by the time we next saw each other we just ‘knew’ and made it work)

We lived over 3000 miles apart. An experience dating experience!!

Expensive

Not hours but the next city and he had his ow life and I had mine.
We went quickly to weekends, then he dropped his hobby class so we could meet during the week it worked really well for 3.5 years. I think we got engaged after three.
Then at 58 he was made redundant. Couldn’t get another job in his field. Couldn’t live on job seekers and savings were dwindling so I suggested he sold up and moved in with me
He had no ties to his city, so he did.
We got married 4 years ago on the anniversary of the day we first met
Been together 11 years

I never had any trust issues.
Hope it works for you.

Oh and to use and old fashioned phrase, I loved our courtship phase.
It was the most lovely time.
I still think of it with fondness..and silly old sod I am , yes my heart did give a lurch when he came down my path after he finished work on a Friday to take me ‘home’.
He’d have a meal prepared for me. Light some candles
He was a keeper all right.

When we first 'met' online we were just in a chat room. It wasn't a dating site and I made loads of friends, male and female. I had no romantic inkling at all as he lived 200 miles away but gradually found I was spending all my spare time chatting online with him. He made me laugh a lot and my sister noticed first that he was becoming more than a friend. Then he asked if we could meet and the rest is history. He tells me he fell in love with me before he met me. We spent every weekend together taking it in turns to travel until we took the plunge and I moved to live with him.

We had a few ups and downs when we first moved in together. We were both used to our own space during the week and took a while to find the right rhythm for living together full time but we worked through it and although it's taken ages we are both absolutely confident in each other after both being cheated on in the past. Getting married is just formalising things as we are both getting older and if anything happens to either of us it gives us protection re pensions etc.

annonymousse I could write your first paragraph word for word apart from the taking it in turns to travel as he had his DC every weekend and I have no DC. I moved up after 3 months and got married after 3 years.

Yes. 3 hours apart for about 18 months, then we both moved to a different place for work.

Been married 15 years, but now in process of separating.

Yes we lived 2 hours apart. We met every weekend at either his or mine.

We did marry after less than a year, we just wanted to be with each other. Been very happily married for 30 years.

3000 miles for us , been married 16 years now

Yes, about 3 hours apart. At the start he came to me first, again a few days later and after that it was me making my way to him. Which I didn't mind because I preferred his city to mine.

We didn't do the travelling bit for long, moved in together very quickly. Much more quickly than if we hadn't lived so far apart. He maintains that moving in together so soon was a mistake and he would have preferred to just date for longer before moving in. We're now married (five years this year) with two DC.

Yes, we were three hours apart. Moved in together more quickly than we would have otherwise, but it worked out. Have been together for 4 years now and married for 2