What do I do next?

[Mysty83]

Hi all, I've posted here before about wanting to leave my husband who is emotionally abusive.
I have told him it's the end. We have a joint mortgage and 2 young children.
I have had the house valued and met different estate agents. I'm ready to sell and move on. I have told him I've done this. We don't verbally communicate anymore. All I am getting is angry emotional texts from him about how I've broke up the family, how I've affected his mental health, how hes going to lose his job because he cant focus at work etc etc. He hasn't mentioned anything about the house or what will happen, hes just not accepting it.
My question is where do I go from here if he wont engage about future plans (I'm too scared to discuss it face to face because I know he will get angry, make me feel more guilty and maybe even change my mind out of guilt.) Can I just put the house up for sale? Anyone had a similar experience?
Thanks xx

You don’t mention if you have filed for divorce.
In this situation - no, you can’t just put the house up for sale if he isn’t in agreement.
You need to follow the normal route - See a solicitor, file for divorce, get a financial agreement and as part of if - if the house is to be sold, then this is what will happen.

Solicitor. Immediately.

Thank you, no I haven't filed for divorce yet, I was hoping to sort the house out first as divorce will take a while and I was hoping we could be amicable about it all but appears not

No you can't sell the house without his agreement or until you have agreed a settlement. This will all back fire on you and cost you money and time.

Whilst he may be unwilling to engage, you cannot storm ahead without following proper processes. You will be wasting the estate agents time and any potential buyers time.

Who's name is the house in?
If both, you can only sell if he agrees

What reason are you planning to use for the divorce, specific where you can instantly file or do you need to wait for legal separation time first?

Sorry you are going through this

Yes it's in both our names. I havent really even thought about divorce, I know hat sounds really silly but I thought he would agree to selling, I was happy to sort it out between ourselves and then I would just file for divorce after we had been separated for a while. Sounds like it's about to get a while lot more complicated, dont think I'll ever get out