I'm nearly a year engaged. Since I met my partner a few years ago, everything was fantastic between us. I was so happy. Currently we have no set date or plans due to financial restrictions and savings. There is one problem between us. Sex or the lack of sex. Sex dwindled last year but that wasn't a problem for me. Now, sex is nothing and it is a problem now for me. I'm female. My partner is male. We are both in our 30s. The lack of sex, to some degree was from the two of us. Different schedules, hectic schedules, one raising earlier than the other, monthly period getting in the way. However, many times conditions have been good for us to have sex, and sex doesn't happen. More often than not what happens is some fumbling together and we don't finish having sex for some reason. He masturbates and finishes himself off. January was the last time we had sex. There has been plenty of times since then, we got cost together but it ends with him masturbating instead of having sex with me.
I'm not one bit happy and I hate it. There's no sexual connection any more between us. I don't know if I can see it coming back. I would love for it to come back but I don't know if it will. It will depend on him. I don't think he has erection problems considering he can gain an erection and masturbate. His masturbation grip is vigorous and I think it might be a death grip or porn issue at fault.
Anyways, I really don't see us having sex again. Once we come into July, our schedules are far too crazy and intense, July will be out of the question and at that stage, that will be a 6 month mark without sex.
I feel like absolute crap with this. We are a couple and we don't have sex. I miss the sexual connection between us.
Also, I'm gaining a mindset that, without sex, we are just friends. Friends with occasional and rare benefits. That's all we are. I don't know how to dig my mind out from that mindset.
I think this might be the end of us and I'm ok with that.