Feeling down - never been this honest

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Can't stop having these waves of feeling like I want to escape everything. Got married and had children fairly young (early 20's) and our friends around us are doing exciting things and really flourishing. I get this horrible pang of sadness/jealousy in my stomach when I hear "so an so's having a baby" or I see engagement /house buying announcements on Facebook. I feel there is no excitement or adventure in my life anymore.
I feel like I've done all the major milestones before I'm even 30.
I can't tell if I'm depressed or I've genuinely fallen out of love with my husband. And that's really scary. (Did do a previous post about the ins and outs of our relationship, and how he's distant in our marriage.)
I feel like I'm seeking male validation from others, because I don't seem to get it from DH, by being flirty and wanting it to be reciprocated. (I know, I'm an arsehole.) I find myself doing myself up to look sexy when one of DH's friends come round. I know it sounds like I'm actively looking to cheat but that is absolutely not the case. I want my husband. I feel like the biggest selfish bitch but I'm at a complete loss over what to do about it. I want to feel happy and content with my life and my gorgeous husband like I once did. Can I get it back? Any advice on reigniting the spark?
I adore my 2 children and would never forgive myself for breaking their family apart.

God OP do you really think "all the major milestones" involve babies and marriage?

If you're not getting what you need from your husband, you're supposed to talk to him about it.

I think from what you've said that you really need to find a passion for yourself. Something you love doing and which will challenge you.

And talk to your husband.

@HennyPennyHorror

Generally in our society, especially with women, I think they are perceived as the major life milestones. Get married, buy a house, have a baby.
But yes, you are right. I do need a passion, it's just finding the time to explore it!

And have spoken to husband a few times about it, nothing particularly changes. God I sound like a misery

You're not a misery.

You're at a crossroads. How old are the little ones and do you get time to yourself?

We can easily get stuck in a rut sometimes especially with partners (I don't speak for everyone just encase there are people who are in love/happy all the time). I never read your other thread but have you talked to hubby about getting some fire back?

Sorry just read last post

@EAIOU it's nice to hear a bit of rational thinking, thankyou. Having a really down day today.

I reckon this about life purpose stuff. The universe is calling! The discomfort you feel is trying to tell you something OP.

You need an adventure. Can you change jobs? Start a blog? Volunteer? Even better, an adventure together with your DH. Travel? Renovation project? Buy a campervan and hit the open road? What were the things you talked about doing when you first got together?

I've not met any of those milestones, i've had to make my own ones! Find out your own passions and follow them.