Partner turning to twitter for porn

[XEmz]

Hi everyone,

I have just found out my partner has been looking on twitter at young women who flaunt themselves and I'm guessing for attention with racey pictures which are dirty and full on nude. I'm not a prude and we have a very good sex life I just dont like how this made me feel. I know men watch porn and I guess these days it's the norm,obv porn is a profession for some women and I guess because it's over exaggerated and meant for a purpose I don't find it as bad. It's the fact that these girls are real on twitter, maybe I'm over reacting. I feel hurt and almost like he has cheated. Does any one else feel the same as me it do I need to get a grip lol.

He hasn’t cheated but I definitely understand how you feel. I suppose the realness of the girls in the photos as opposed to porn stars is what hurts I guess.

I’d just speak to him tbh

Yes that's it's completely. I've spoken to him. He doesn't understand why it is worse. He says it's just pictures. I guess we both will have to agree to disagree. I've told him that he needs to just delete it on the computer.

I have had the same discussion with my partner this evening. There is something much more personal on Twitter then with porn.

My partner just doesn’t seem to understand that. I find it hurtful and a bit like cheating. I’m not sure I have the words to describe it.

Anyway I get how you feel. Even if I have no solution

It's not more personal, it's just more immediate.

The majority of women selling porn via twitter are doing so via automated services like Buffer and HootSuite, or using PAs.

Lots of porn stars realised back in the 2000s that they could appeal to more clients by cultivating a "real girl" persona (versus robots, presumably?) - I'm thinking back to when BellaDonna started blogging on MySpace, for example.

I think it’s more personal because it’s very, very easy to message them. Therefore it’s not “just looking at pictures”

I think with porn it's all about Serving a purpose I guess, you don't really have the girl posing in a flirtatious way into the camera as if they are looking at you specifically, So that you can imagine having sex with them and that's the worry for me that my partner instead of just using porn as a mean to an end, he is imaging having sex with them because of the more personal real presence.

I think with twitter as well they can be looking at it a lot of times each day. It’s a part of a normal day which is odd.

XEmz did you explain it like that to your partner? That is a good explanation

Social media peeping tom types and the attention seekers who post that sort of garbage both give me the ick....bit too thirsty for me.

I don't think he will stop it, so the choices are either find someone who has more constructive uses for their time or suck it up.

Thank you all for your support everyone. It's nice to know that I haven't over reacted, not sure how I'm going to handle it. I'll probably talk about it again today as it became a big argument last night. But will see if we can work it out and he can look at it from my point other than him trying to defend himself. Normally he needs time to digest stuff and think after and he normally sees the light. Obviously because he's a bloody stupid man. Lol xx

Perhaps if you look at some make fitness models on twitter/Google/wherever or actors with good physiques like Liam Hemsworth, Joe Manganiello etc. - it might help focus his mind on what could be uncomfortable about it .

*male

Jessie Pavelka could be a good start; just saying .

Haha yea I actually turned it on him like that and he actually agreed that he would feel upset. So yea he's just bloody stupid, plus he's 44 and should know better really or at least know by now how to get rid of the evidence haha.

If you really mean ‘girls’ (not young women) this needs reporting to the police asap

Sometimes, choice of words really matters. Are these ‘girls’ of age, or still children?

Do you really think someone would post an intimate relationship problem on here if their partner was a pedofile? These girls are 19, 20 so I see them as young girls not women.

At 44? FFS.

I thought from your description he was about 20!! 😦

Hes also old enough to be their dad 🤢

Have you spoken to your partner about it any more?

Yes I feel that way because they also text the men

He will never change he will just hide it better.

He will never change he will just hide it better.

This.

Social media has just made porn more accessible than even the internet first did. Your partner sounds grim and I think you’re just having your eyes opened to how grim he really is. Some men consume porn that they would never tolerate if the roles were reversed.