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Ignored me, text me, feels guilty?

9 replies

Runrow · 05/06/2019 15:47

right a bit of background
we had a relationship for three years. We broke up mutually however I tried to fix the relationship but she didn't seem to interested. So I broke up when she suggested it... I did her a favour I think because I knew she wanted to break up but she just couldn't do it.
Anyway it was friendly breakup and no fighting. She messaged me a few times afterwards, seeing how I am, as did I to her. I also sent her a letter telling her I still love her and thanked her for the great times together. She responded to it and then we stopped talking. A month or so passed and I gave her a quick message seeing how she was. We chatted for a while and I asked if we had a chance to try again. She couldn't give me an answer and then ignored me afterwards whilst posting on social media showing how happy Andy upbeat she is. She ignored me for two months. In this time I didn't contact again and just got on with my life. I promised myself I would not message her again as she clearly doesn't want to talk. Then on the weekend I drove past her, I waved and she completely blanked me... I know she saw me. Then we ended up in the same shop, I wanted to say hello to her but by the time I had chance to look and see where she was she had been and gone. She again ignored me and avoided me. She knew I was there... we were a matter of metres away from eachother. Obviously I felt a bit crap about that but I accepted she didn't want to say hello for whatever reason, so I let it go and just carried on.
then later that evening, I received a message from her. Two months after ignoring me, saying she did see me but I wasn't facing her so she went... i think she messaged because she felt guilty for walking off with out saying anything? Anyway since then we have been texting back and forth but it didn't seem very enthusiastic from her. She's keeping it very low key.
She hasn't asked me any questions or how I'm doing. It seems me just asking a couple of questions. But she responds usually a few hours later or next day if late. I don't know where to go from here? I still like her and I think she knows this. She made a point of telling me she was going out for the evening when there was no real reason to. Obviously this got me thinking, was she trying to make Me jealous? Or bad? I dont know. Since she messaged me my feelings for her have come to the surface again. But I should tell myself she been ignoring me and doesn't seem interested?

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GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 05/06/2019 15:50

I think you're wasting your time, sorry.

It sounds as though you want to get back together, but she doesn't.

If I were you, stop texting her, delete her from everything and try and move on.

Novia · 05/06/2019 15:51

I think she's made it really clear she isn't interested and is just responding out of politeness. Time to step away and leave her alone.

SparklyMagpie · 05/06/2019 15:51

Been wondering where you've been considering how much you post this exact same post

MOVE ON!!

Pashazade · 05/06/2019 15:54

For your own sanity block her and unfollow and move on with your life. You need to leave her alone and let go of what was. It might be difficult but it does not sound like she is interested in that kind of relationship at best she's being kind at worst she's stringing you along. Whichever it may be it's not helpful to stay in touch. Move on.

happyhillock · 05/06/2019 15:56

Time to forget her she's not interested, get on with life as she's doing

NameChangeNugget · 05/06/2019 15:59

She’s not interested

Dr273 · 05/06/2019 16:43

She's not interested. You're torturing yourself.

Willows991 · 05/06/2019 19:32

Block the number and don't text her back

Frownette · 05/06/2019 19:37

Block OP, sorry. You need to accept that it's over.

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