Which man would you choose?

[MaiaRindell]

If you were single and open to a relationship, and two men asked you out, which would you choose? They are as physically attractive as each other, and both are interested in a relationship with you.

Option 1 - Kind, Thoughtful, gentle, clever, funny, loving, quiet, shy, bit boring, adores you.
Option 2 - Cheeky, funny, sociable, exciting, rich, popular, obviously really fancies you

Life and soul of the party types often use it to mask insecurity. They can be fun to be with but as reliable as a 40 year old Lada.

Oh and they could flirt with an envelope so he is probably far less into than you realise. All the best womanisers have one thing in common - they can make you feel like the only woman on the planet.

Kind is important. If by saying no2 isn't kind, you actually mean he's a bit of a dick with a mean/cruel streak, then avoid him like the plague.

Have been in this situation myself a few times. The only way through it (with no what ifs) from my experience is to date both and get to know what they are like from the dating perspective.

1 any day of the week. 2 sounds like plenty of wankers I once knew

Of go for number 1.

I used to always date the second guy. I married the first. It’s not a fairy tale. Bit for me it was realising every time I was on a date with another guy number two I’d rather be hanging out drinking wine/walking/watching a film/chatting/doing nothing with guy one. And he’s not boring to me.

I'd keep.hunting for guy number 3 that's like number 2 but also kind. Meanwhile, I'd have fun with number 2!

Oh, right, I was reading it as a theoretical situation, but they're actually real guys!

OP - on what basis is number 1 boring? Is it to do with his personality or just that he doesn't go out very much and doesn't seem to have outside interests? The latter might be fixable if you can persuade him to get out a bit more, but if he's just a bit staid, that's less appealing.

I think it's a bit unfair to assume that somebody who is outgoing and charming will necessarily be an arrogant dick. OP, do you think that's really what number 2 is like?

I wouldn't be interested in 2. I think he's one who'd break your heart. As for 1, it would depend on what you mean by boring.

I think it sounds like you think you should go for number 1. So there's your answer.

But I agree with a PP, if you want a long serious relationship, go with 1, but if you want a fling, go with 2.

I would bore number 2, very quickly. So number 1 would be for me. To save me from future heartache, finacial loss and grieving the lifestyle that comes with having a rich bf/dh.

Option 2. If you already think option 1 is a bit boring it won't last.

Why choose, go out with both while there is commitment.

Depends totally on your age and circumstances. I’m a divorced 43 year old mum of two with a messy divorce behind me. I’d go for kind and supportive every time.

Jesus christ not this again 😂

If 1 is clever I would hope that would offset the "boring "
Depends if you are looking for short term fun or something longterm. Try both and see what happens

Go for number two, but can you send number one my way?

Has there been a nuclear explosion that has wiped out every other man on the planet?

Because tbh neither of them sounds much fun to me.

No1 because he is boring you already.

No2 because he is boring me- and I haven't even met the bloke.

If you had said that he was also kind and interested in other people- but you haven't. He is somebody from your description who thrives on having all the attention on him. Ime gets tedious very quickly.

I think no 2 would drive me crackers after a while

No 1 for me.