Limerance/unrequited love

[PenelopePunk]

I'm stuck in this with someone I can't go NC with and it is horrible. Horrible. He was my best friend but didn't want anything else and now I am trying to move on. Has anyone managed to get through this and have any advice? How do you heal from limerance?

Time and space are the only cure. I am two years no contact and still know I could be lead down that path if I didn't have my head screwed on and avoided situations that are potential sightings.

It's very tough but it can ruin your life and relationships so get strong it's the only way.

Good Luck

I had to move house. Total no contact is the only way.
It's awful op, sorry you're dealing with it.

Does it get worse before it gets better?
Definitely tougher than dry Jan!
Pen and Howdo, maybe its the same person. Small world sometimes!

Is the hobby am-dram and is his name Pete? I had the same thing OP, it was bloody awful.

I couldn’t go NC at first because we were playing the leads in a show together for 3 months but I started focusing on myself for a while, started some new hobbies, started getting my nails done, surrounded myself with the people that did like and value me and basically kept busy. I focussed all my attention on me instead of him and also put my faith in a higher power that this just wasn’t meant to be and that further down the line there was someone much better and kinder for me.

Then I went no contact. Going on holiday and having a fling also helps a lot. You need to give yourself something to look forward to.

Also. He ain’t all that. Especially if he’s Pete from Amdram

@Simonspunk Yikes!! Could be .. certainly think mines a game player.

Is game playing a necessary part of limerence? Would you want this person if there was no game being played?