I have a perfect husband in nearly all aspects. he's a gorgeous dad to our young kids. From the outside, looks like nothing is wrong.
I love him dearly, he's is my absolute best friend.
But, there is no passion, excitement or adventure in our relationship. It's been this way for years. He's quite happy in his spare time to sit, watch telly and eat till he falls asleep. Every single night, regardless of what I try to initiate. We rarely have sex, and when we do it's disconnected, like a chore. He still assures me he loves me, but we never do date nights or loved up things. His go-to when we have free time is "what do you wanna watch?" And it does my head in. He never particularly tries with birthdays/anniversaries, I always have to make my own birthday arrangements. I have spoken to him lots about it, he tells me he'll try harder but nothing ever changes.
I think maybe i should cut him some slack as we do have two young children and we are both tired all the time. But I'm getting those scary thoughts of "am I happy or am I just settled?" We've recently gotten close to one of his friends, and I have to be bluntly honest in saying I'm attracted to him, and find myself thinking about him. I'm cringing whilst I type here.
I feel like the biggest selfish bitch but I'm really struggling to re-ignite the spark in my marriage. Has anyone come out of a phase like this in your marriage? I hope it's a phase, as I want to be passionate with my husband again but don't know how anymore. And how do I stop thinking about this friend?