Lift has been shit for years, now it's not I've crashed??

[Whattodo13333]

I've had a bloody shit time for years, abusive bully of an ex, miserable life, bad anxiety, now I've escaped, bought my own home, been a single, (part time) working parent, met a fantastic guy, coped and carried on through the split, move, turmoil of it all but now crashed and burned now it's all settled down!!!!! WTF?? Anyone else. Xxxx

You probably weren't able to crash before when you were in the thick of it all. Can you afford a holiday, even a cheap one?

It can be very draining coming out of a horrendous ordeal.

I think when things are so shit we run on adrenaline & just keep going. Now you're beginning to relax the adrenaline is wearing off..
Maybe have a couple of councilling sessions to talk through what happened before the good stuff.
Good luck xx

Thank you, both good suggestions that I will try and do. It's all been so overwhelming. Not sure what to worry about now I don't have to! Xxxxx

Hi op. I’m the same as you. Physically I was healthy when I left my abusive ex, mentally not. Now I’m mentally ok but physically have been a bit of a mess. It’s stress. Plays havoc with your internal system. Have a look at adrenal fatigue, make sure you eat well, try and sleep as well as you can too. Two and a half years out and physically it’s caught up with me, I put myself last for so many years and have done a lot since leaving to get my life back on track again. The most stressful period of my life so far to date. Be kind to yourself x

Yes your body has been running on stress hormones and now the stress has lifted your body has crashed.

I'm a lone parent and keep all the plates spinning but on the rare occasion DD goes to her dads I'm almost incapacitated the next day. This time last year I had shingles and thought I was going to die.

This year I could feel myself on a downward spiral and have taken annual leave, slept, eaten well and exercised to try to stave off the crash.

I've been through a shitty couple of years. I think i almost became addicted to being anxious, when it was gone, I was looking for things to worry about too.

I'm reading a few self help books, i find they help me understand what's going on in my head. Currently on "women who love too much"

Each day as it comes for now. Xxx