Hiya,
You guys really helped me a year or so ago, before and during the time I left my ex husband of 23 years.
I’ve been renting my own little house with the children for a year now, we’re doing fine.
I haven’t yet filed for divorce but I’m ready to.
I had a really shitty summer - once I’d sorted things and the urgency faded, I collapsed, and I’ve been on meds for depression ever since, but I’m a lot better now.
For 6 months I was dead inside, but I came back to life at Christmas, and I’ve been chatting to guys on dating sites since. I’m actually really enjoying chatting, and I’ve had several dates, and a couple of shortish relationships. It’s all on my terms, and I feel fine and empowered, and also attractive and wanted in a way I haven’t for years.
Anyway.
My instinct is not to tell the kids about anyone specific until I’m fairly sure I want to carry on seeing them, but I’ve had several dates with different guys, who just weren’t right for one reason or another. Nice to chat and go for a drink or coffee, but that’s all.
So if I mention names it sounds as if I’m a serial dater or loose woman of some kind...
My kids are 15 up, so are perfectly aware and old enough - and they all support me in meeting someone new.
How do you deal with it? What do you tell them?
Thanks
PS I am so much happier than I used to be - life has changed beyond recognition - thank you 😊 xx