Hi
I’m feeling very disheartened when it comes to the dating scene and meeting someone recently.. I’m 29 have my own place decent job good family friends etc but when it comes to men I have no luck at all. Most of my life from when I started dating I have had bad rships.
Recently broke up with an ex I was with for a few years as he wasn’t serious and was very immature and didn’t treat me very well. I have been struggling with No contact and he just doesn’t even respond to me anymore. The ex before him had another girlfriend for about the last 6 months of our rships that I found out about after we broke up. Our rship wasn’t bad so I thought but again he didn’t seem to want to settle down.
I was with the first guy nearly 3 years and the recent one two years this is now the longest time I’ve been single in years.
My relationships always start off as friends and I have my gaurd up and as soon as I let it down it doesn’t take long until I am being fucked over.. I admit I never walk away when I should and it ends up being them who leave me. It takes a while for me to become affectionate etc and it seems like the guys like this but as soon as the loving side does come out that is when they take advantage ! Both of these exes I met through ppl I knew.
I was finding it hard to get over my recent ex as alot happaned between us however I then met a new guy who like the others I knew through friends and had known of him for several years.. he was quite full on in pursueing me said he wants to be serious with someone etc wants kids soon and we started meeting up etc .. we Haven’t had full on sex yet but did get intimate and he has now completely changed! Doesn’t call for days doesn’t return my calls doesn’t even message me really.
I don’t understand why this keeps on happening ! And I’m starting to give up hope I would love to settle down and have a family but it’s the same pattern with everyone I meet!
Sorry for the rant I’m just feeling quite down about it all tonight