What are we?

[SparklesAndUnicorns]

So I've been talking to someone I really like for a few months now and we have been seeing eachother as much as we can, he works funny hours and I'm a single parent to two, it's been working really well as there's been no pressure from either side as we both run busy lives but we do enjoy each other's company when we can. We have also slept together so I know it's not just a friendship thing. Now it's getting more serious I'm just wondering where I stand. It's hard to gauge how he feels when we talk over text most days rather than face to face. I guess we're technically dating but it's such early days, how do you breach the conversation of being in a more serious relationship and how do I trust that we aren't seeing other people? (I'm not I don't have time for that!). I would love to be exclusive but don't want to scare him off asking too early. I haven't dated properly since the children's dad left us in the lurch over three years ago so I have no clue what I'm doing haha

It's been a while since I've dated anyone but id have been happy to just ask if he's seeing other people, I wouldn't ask about being exclusive as such if your worried it's too soon but just say that your curious if he's seeing other people and if he says yes then at least he's honest and you know that right now he's not looking to settle into anything serious just yet.

Having just navigated through this myself recently..... The best thing you can do is just ask the question about how he sees things.

I think you shouldn't have to second guess where you stand with someone, it's important to be on the same page otherwise someone is getting more out of it than the other person.

I've just ended a thing I've had with a guy for a few months because he said he wanted to be more than friends but didn't want to settle down..... It was a very weird arrangement and I didn't want to just have bits of a relationship and I could see it was probably going to start chipping at my self esteem soon enough.

There's something really empowering about asking someone about where you stand. It can go one of two ways - either he says yes, I'd love to make it official or be exclusive OR he will want to keep it casual or not serious.

Be prepared to voice what you want, be honest with yourself and don't settle for scraps because you deserve better than that. Unless a casual arrangement suits you, if that's the case then fill your boots and enjoy it 🌈🦄