Partner has this *thing* about litigation

[MoominMantra]

Every time anything goes wrong he's looking to sue someone.

My daughter has a mark on her face because another child got a bit rough with her (didn't mean it - is was an accident) and he was saying I should sue the school

Every time anything happens he's like 'oh you should do one of those no win, no fee things' I mean is he for real?

He's thinking of suing his neighbour over something to do with a fence!

Surely this isn't normal.

Has he been watching too much judge Rinder?

If he breaks a cup threaten to sue him. If he wakes you up threaten to sue him etc.

He does know the 'no win, no fee' places don't always win a case or get their clients any money, doesn't he? And they don't take every case on - there has to be some chance of success. He's bonkers.

Thank you, I thought he probably was being completely unreasonable.

I mean is he for real?
how are we meant to know

Tell him to read up on civil litigation to see just how hard it is to get things past a judge!

In most cases you'd only win if you could prove that you have suffered a loss.

In your daughters situation, no one would be interested unless the mark was likely to be permanent.

Just call his bluff - 'good idea, I'll make an appointment for you with a solicitor tomorrow.'

The mark has scared her face but I'm trying to put bio oil on it to help. There is no way I would sue the school. I find his constant requests to complain or kick up a fuss a bit draining to be honest.

@greenlloon well if you don't know, don't post a response 🙄

Is he generally a layabout who believes the world owns him something?

No, he's definitely not a layabout

I had an ex like that. Total hot air which never amounted to anything. It’s such an odd response I never really understood it.

"The mark has scared her face but I'm trying to put bio oil on it to help."

A permanent scar from another child? Did she need stitches?

Your dh sounds like a loon. I'm pretty sure that the school weren't being negligent, this stuff happens in schools every day. He sounds like the awful compo face people I see in the local paper.

I think he is just misguided perhaps. To me it seems like a nice way to make your life way more complicated than it needs to be.

Oh no she didn't need stitches.

Has he ever actually sued anyone or is it all just hot air? My ex was like this, always saying he should sue people, he’d do this he’d do that, he always knew exactly what everybody should do. He never did any of it, it was just a whole lot of bluster.

What’s he like other than that? Does he have very strong oppinions or rant about things? Does he always have to be right?Is he open to criticism/does he listen to your point of view? I’ve noticed that these things frequently go together.

He doesn't always have to be right but he is often on the offensive for no particular reason.

It does sound like has issues around other people having their opinions then. This all sounds very familiar.Just watch out or you’ll get the full force of his disapproval if you disagree with him. Trust me, they don’t reserve it for others, it never gets better and it’ll grind you down.. Don’t under estimate the damage that it’ll do to your self esteem over time. It took me years to rebuild mine, long, hard, traumatic years.