Am I being silly?

[Monkeyblu]

Long history of ups & mainly downs with DH. Lack of respect for me, being very selfish in terms of time & purchases, dont feel particularly loved or special to him etc. We are (yet again) trying to make things work & he’s been not too bad past day of so. I treated him in town today (only to an expensive ice cream!) & I thought we were def on right track. So when he says he’s going to a special wine outlet he goes to & would I like him to get me anything, I was really touched & said I love their inexpensive X. Later I see two empty wine carriers by recycling (apparently they dismantle & fold themselves & go into the bin..😕.) & ask what he got. He says he got me 2 bottles for the rack. I say thanks & what did he get - 10 bottles of various fine wines! He just smirked & said that’s all so asked for - errr no but I feel it’s very telling of the value he puts on me versus himself. Am so being silly??

You expected him to treat you and he didn't. He only got you what you wanted.

As others have said, it's not just about the di e. You are trying to work on the relationship again and he's doing the bare minimum in your mind. Therefore, this is all a representation of what you feel you are worth to him.

It's early days you are back together. See how you feel in a few weeks.

Wine*

I don't really see why you're upset. He got what you wanted and I assume you can both drink his wine?

So what is the rest of the relationship like OP? You can't judge him on this one episode but all the rest, if it's like you describe in your OP, sounds miserable.
You can leave him for any reason or no reason at all if you wish it. There doesn't have to be a 'straw that broke the camel's back' moment. Just a 'lightbulb moment'.