Feeling sorry for daughter’s dad

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So... I have a 16 month old. Long story short. Her father and I were never a couple. We were having fun as friends and i was pregnant months after. He was scared as was I. Our little girl is here now and he is a caring, patient, loving dad.
We occasionally have general conversations about love/ relationships. I’ve decided a long time ago that I solely want to dedicate my time to my daughter and work which is quite intense at times. I want to develop my career.
He has spoken of finding the girl and setting down but unfortunately has not had much luck and apparently not getting a lot of attention from the females he has shown interest it.
My issue is: why do I feel so bad for him? I feel sad that he can’t find a woman who’s can see the good qualities he has.
He’s no saint by any means but he’s a good dad and good son. He’s very generous but I don’t get why women are not seeing this.
I just want to hug him and tell him it will be ok.
I don’t know why I feel this way

It sounds like maybe you have feelings for him yourself?

Hi.
Thanks for the replying.
No, I just see him as good for friend

I’m just trying to understand if anyone has ever felt like thing. His life is his business and what happens to him shouldn’t affect me in this way. I know he wants to be in love etc but can’t seem too find anyone suited.
Why this is affecting me is beyond my comprehension.

Normal feelings surely...don't you usually feel empathy for friends if they are sad over an aspect of their life??

Do you feel like you should have feelings for him? Wouldn't it be nice if you could all play happy families?

Maybe he is hinting at that and you feel guilty that you don't want it?

@DontCallMeDaisy, I would expect to feel like that. Seeing as we get on well. I’m an ideal world we would be together or at least attempt to make it work. Why don’t I have the feelings but instead feel sorry for him. That’s what puzzles me

Guess he’s not just an ex or even just a friend, he’s your daughter’s dad, and therefore an important person and he seems to be doing a good job of it (which is good) so maybe it’s not even about you and him but about your daughter. Your feelings are at least as much about her as about him - he is a v important person in her life and therefore it’s more important to you that he is happy (ha, totally theorising here but you are working as partners in the important project of raising your girl so you want/need him to be happy to keep on track with that).

Also I wonder if you are feeling that he is hinting you should get back together and if he met someone else he would stop as you are not interested in having that sort of relationship with him (though are fond of him - ha, more theorising!)