Going through a rough patch and don’t really know why

[ScrambledToe]

Does this ever happen to you?

Dh are going through a rough patch, we just snipe at each other and are generally grumpy. Neither of us are happy with each other but can’t really put a finger on it.

We don’t have arguments, more bickering about stupid stuff like the dishwasher not being switched on.

We’ve been together 15yrs have 2 children aged 9 & 5.

We do lots together and always do weekends as a family.

We also seem to go through these stages more often recently than ever before.

At this moment in time I genuinely don’t fancy my dh and he’s actually doing my head in. And I know that he has little patience for me right now too. But we don’t know why?!

Usually we snap out of it or it only lasts a few days or so, but this time it feels like months

Oh yes. We have days when we just don’t get along. I put it down to both of us being tired. Usually passes after a maximum of 3 days

I feel like this, not sure what the solution is but it's bound to happen you've been together a long time. Do you both have separate hobbies or spend time with friends separately?

This had been going on longer than 3 days.

We both have similar hobbies but he doesn’t have any friends and prefers to either do his thing on his own or with me and the kids. I do the same hobbies but I have a group of women who I go out with occasionally too. But mostly we’re with each other or on our own.

Dh works away, so we only get 2 weekends a month together, so they’re precious family time.

Dh has also had a couple of injuries in the past yr which have stopped him from doing stuff.
And I started a stressful training course which saw me go full time since the dc were born.