Hi, I've written about this friendship before but I can't cope anymore.
My friend is married to an alcoholic. She's having an affair and he knows she is but she's told him she's stopped seeing the other man. She hasn't. OM is single.
The kids know about the alcoholism and the affair and it's affecting them badly. The parents know too and everyone knows they are splitting up. Except they split up and get back together every week. They've been doing this for the past couple of months and it's exhausting as I get messaged about every turn of events. This is made worse as my husband left me for the ow and my friend knows this.
I've been replying less and less over the past couple of months or so to the point I no longer comment on messages about her marriage.
She's said I'm better than relate (and free too 
) and I've tried my best over the past year to help her but I'm now empty.
They are both damaging their kids with all the change of hearts that go on every week and I can't be involved in it. I've been quite harsh about it with her but still she messages me.
She's not been a great friend to me as frequently cancels plans to meet up and I've found myself not rearranging as it's too draining and I feel angry with her for what she's doing. Her dh is not blameless in this and needs help but they seem locked in some warped codependent game.
What do I do? Continue backing away and ignoring her texts about her relationships? Cut her off completely? I see her in passing a few times a week but nothing else because she doesn't turn up! It's just messages about dh and om. Or something else? She knows what I think but still messages about it wanting sympathy.