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user1479305498 · 31/05/2019 13:21

wondered if someone can help me on this, Ive googled it a few times but not really found a definitive answer. My H can see all the comments I make on other peoples posts. he is a friend of mine on facebook. Its not that there is anything on it that I wouldn't want him to see, most of it is political or friends type stuff but he frequently comments (most days) on things like i liked your response to xyz etc. I have my page set as only viewable by 'friends' so the chances are if he sees my comments , others do too. Now I'm not precious but I do find it a bit creepy that someone can see anything and everything I comment on by just looking in their own 'notifications' feed. (and its not posts he is on I checked on my FB and I cant see any comments at all from him in my notifications or indeed anyone else at allunless I am on that particular post and have commented. Its got to be something in my settngs. Although I have nothing to hide it makes me feel a bit uncomfortable. I did mention it and he says t must be my settings but I cannot work out what I have ticked or unticked that makes my comments come into peoples notifications unasked for-- and its making wary of what I comment on. Clearly his settings aren't the same as mine, Anyone got any suggestions.

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pinkandstripey · 31/05/2019 13:27

Sounds he's he's got his fb set to give a notification each time you post, or to put your posts at the top of his feed.

Your profile set to friends only apples to your content - so posts and shares on your timeline. If you comment on someone else's post, it's the settings of that post (probably public) which control who can see your comment, if that's makes sense.

MrsPMT · 31/05/2019 13:44

I've logged into FB and had a look and can't see any way to make my comments not visible to 'friends' but don't have any reason to.

I'm assuming like pink said above, he's got his set to notify of your posts/comments.

You could always make him an "acquaintance" think he will see less then, but don't tell him Grin

Noonooyou · 31/05/2019 13:52

I had no idea you could get Facebook to notify you when someone posts on something... is this true? It's rather creepy if I'm being honest!

Meandyouandyouandme · 31/05/2019 14:02

I sometimes see my friends comments on their other friends comments, which makes me wonder who can see mine. I find it annoying and have no need of knowing what other people write, anyone know how to turn this off? I’ve always thought this was a bit weird.

TomorrowsPrincess · 31/05/2019 15:02

I think it's about the privacy setting on what your commenting on. If you were to comment on an article on, say a BBC thread, that article would be set to 'Everyone' (has the 🌎 icon on the post) therefore if you comment your comment is visible to anyone and would appear on your friends news feed that you've commented on so and so post.
It's not something you can control. It's at the control of the posters article.

DollyPomPoms · 31/05/2019 19:00

I think it may be because not only is her your ‘friend’ on Facebook but he has also clicked the ‘follow’ button?

Charmlight · 31/05/2019 19:06

Agree it’s what you’re posting on that’s the issue.
I think he can only see your comments if they are on a public post or the post of a mutual friend.

Bouledeneige · 31/05/2019 19:08

just hide him. I dont be friends.

RiversDisguise · 31/05/2019 19:54

If this bothers you you must stop posting on public posts.

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