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Still missing my DC when they visit their dad - does this get easier?

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Newnewnewnames · 30/05/2019 19:04

Have been divorced three years. DC 8 & 13. They go eow to his (he stayed in the family home, was abusive).
I moved out with nothing, he changed the locks, I never got to go back. I divorced him. I'll never go back to him, we barely speak. He's not allowed to come here or drop off anywhere nearby which is why I take the DC to him every time.
But when I deliver them to his house (my old dream home) and then come home alone (we have our own house for us three now) I feel so desolate.
Anyone any advice please?

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NewRoadToHappinessxx · 30/05/2019 19:13

It will get easier it will become more normal. It’s very odd that he is allowed to have the children if he was abusive though and get to keep the house. (Not prying just a kind of heads up to anyone in an abusive relationship that the ex doesn’t have to be involved in their future when they have got free).

I found things to do, gym, drink with a friend, cinema or visiting family. Oh an online dating 😂😂 - warning that lead to second marriage and 3 more children!

Bluetrews25 · 30/05/2019 19:17

Can you drop off elsewhere? Seeing your old home will be setting off how you feel, not surprisingly. Is there a supermarket carpark / pub carpark nearby that you could use instead?
Do you make plans for occupying your time when the DCs are away?

Johngon · 30/05/2019 19:18

Do you just miss them, or are you lonely and miss them? If the latter then do you have any pets or close friends to be companions to you when on your own? Obviously not if its something you cant fully commit to (in the pet scenario).

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