Have been married to H for 16 years, together 18. Four years ago he left me because he said I’d changed since my Dad had died- 6 months before! He regretted it quickly, forced himself back into the family home as joint mortgage, over the next few months moved from spare room back into my life. A month ago same thing, there is not enough passion, he wants to be my friend, I’ve not lost enough weight since DC2, he hopes I find someone who loves me properly etc... I now know he is a cheat. I think he ended our marriage first time for an OW and he came back when it didn’t work. Now there is another OW.
I really just want to hear that me and my two DS will be ok
He is making separation so difficult, he hasn’t paid any child maintenance and is refusing to pay anymore than 50% of bills even though he earns double. Every day he pulls another trick, changing our DC child care arrangements without discussion or my input.
I know he is trying to grind me down until I am a wreck and then will accept an unfair settlement to just get the ordeal to end.
I am angry with myself for ever being involved with someone who puts money before his relationship with DC.
I have seen a solicitor, applied for UC and speaking to the child maintenance people. Just so exhausting