Any positive stories re overcoming a crack addiction?

[Paulettepink]

Just that really. Is it possible? Or should I just cut my losses?

Having a relationship?

Get out!

An addict has to want to change. This is something I know a great deal about, unfortunately.

If he’s still using, I agree with the PP. Cut your losses.

I know people that were bad on crack. They have turned their life around but it was bloody hard for them. They really wanted to clean up and caught for it.

One of them joined Nar Anon and still goes to regular meetings. The other did it by herself but nearly lost her kids over it, that was the shock she needed.

I've asked him to leave as he hasn't made much progress in the last year. I don't feel he has engaged with me or tried hard enough. I'm hoping that losing his family will be the incentive that he needs to beat this. But perhaps I am deluding myself

Paulettepink the two people I know were on the verge of losing their kids.

Woman in her twenties, reported to SS she very nearly lost them. They would have gone in to care. She cleaned herself up pretty quick and cut of all her ‘friends’, moved area.

The bloke I know was a wealthy business man who lost a lot of money by being high, smoking the money away. He confessed to wife and he went in to the priory and joined Narc Anon. He is still in it.

In your position given he has fucked about for a year I’d give him the push. It might shock him in to sorting his shit out, if you have kids he will be a better dad and partner - it’s a win

If he doesn’t sort his shit out then you have cleared him out so you won’t have to put up with it anymore - that’s also a win.

I can understand it would be hard to do that but at what point do you stop enabling this? Plus you can’t have the kids around this.

Good luck

That's exactly my thought process. In trying to help him I have inadvertently enabled him. And I'm not having it round my children so now I know he is still using, he had to leave. Heartbreaking decision but its the best thing for all of us. I don't think he believed that I would go through with it. I've given him a huge long list of things he would need to do before I would even consider letting him back. So hard to let go, hence the list. Not sure that was wise

What not wise the list or kicking him out?

It doesn’t really matter about the list because if he sorts himself out you will see an immediate change. Lists are not set in stone. Getting clean is.

Kicking him out is probably the wisest thing you’ve done in a long time

Yes kicking him out is most definitely the wisest thing I've done in a long time and it is long overdue.

Good to know that it is possible to change if you want it bad enough, thank you