I am a fifty year old mum of two adopted children and life is tough. A couple of years ago I kind of fell into a casual relationship with a 38 year old man. We both knew it could never go anywhere but we had a truly lovely time - cocktails, expensive meals, weekends away. It was like being in a blissful bubble. He was ever so sweet to me and made me feel so special.
6 month ago I ended it because I knew he wanted a wife and children and we were going nowhere. In those past 6 months there has hardly been any contact (the odd text) and, although I missed him a bit, I was fine. However, I was having a seriously bad day the other week and I called him up. Guess I was looking for a cuddle and reassurance and was actually crying when I called him. He sounded really hyped up and blurted out that he is buying a new car, moving cities and is moving in with someone who he is going to marry and have family with.
Gulp! I cannot believe how upset I am. In my head I think I thought he would be a bachelor for a while longer and we could occasionally link up. I now feel bereft and also so jealous. I am scared I am going to get bitter and obsessed. My life is hard and I imagine them with the perfect little family.
After the phone call I sent him a text wishing him all the best and he sent me a lovely text back saying that he had an amazing time with me and that he wears the chain I gave him and thinks about me often. I did not respond and have now blocked him on everything because I think any continued friendly contact will hurt me.
Please help me move on from this and remember it for the lovely time it was instead of being eaten up that he is now nesting and has moved on.