Hi - I'll try and keep this short if possible! So my DH is the stressy person in the relationship and I am the calm one. He has always been hot headed but since having our DS 12 weeks ago he has been really negative with me. An example from this evening;
He comes in from work - first thing he says "it's hot in here" and starts opening all the windows and then starts telling me how the house is a state and I should have tided up...now I had straightened up but not properly cleaned the house as I am still recovering from the birth, have a 12 week old that is a little groggy and needy today and also studying for an exam in a few days! I tried to tell him this but he didn't want to listen. I then had to leave as I needed to be somewhere for an hour so he looked after out DS, when I came back he just ignored me and went to bed, making me feel like I am in the wrong...Am I?
Other examples include; "you wouldn't be anywhere without me"
"I am the one that brings the money in, I pay for this and that and you pay for nothing" which is incorrect, yes he earns more and especially now I am on maternity but I have paid for things too (we don't have a joint account).
He also offers to help with things and then moans about having to do everything!
He has been getting more snappy as the weeks go on, my question is; AIBU for thinking he is being too negative to me? As much as I love DS I know DH wanted a baby more than me(I wouldn't be without him) he doesn't do that much with DS but does do the cooking!