So, this is a very complex and touchy subject that's been playing on my mind now for some time, I just need advice on what to do as I'm stuck.
Me & my OH have been together now for many years and have 3 children together. We both suffer from depression/anxiety and at times we both find it difficult to communicate our feelings to one another.
Basically OH has a very rocky family and has lived with his mum up until we moved in together, they have a very tight relationship and he was brought up by his mum alone. I still don't know the ins and outs of what happened with OH's father, just that they split when he was young, moved away and didn't have any contact since. That's all I know, I never asked anymore questions.
At the start of the year it came to light that OH dad was very unwell and had weeks to live, this was found out by a family friend. My OH was devastated but did not go to see his father or go to the funeral out of his own choice.
It has hit OH hard and we haven't spoken about it much. A few months have past now and I've just discovered something very shocking as this what not something I expected to find out at all and I'm at a loose end. I won't go into detail how I found out and I have not told anyone at all that I know about this but I discovered that OH father was trans. When I found this out a lot of things kind of slotted together and things made sense a-bit more.
What do I do?! His father has now passed, no one knows that I know about this, my OH has never told me about this so I'm thinking he obviously does not want me to know. What do I do? Do I leave it and not say anything? It's playing on my mind!
Thanks in advance for any suggestions