Got myself into a pickle

[Littleteacup1]

Relationship is shit we live together like lodgers he’s going to love out when he can afford to we own our house I can hopefully buy his share of the house with some inheritance but no idea when that’s happening. His best friend has been going through a shit time but my partners always at work so never free for a chat or to meet up. Recently when he texts and asks if my partner is free to go to pub ikea and says no I always offer or he asks if I want to come by myself as he dosnt mind. He’s had a crush on my friend for a long time and we often talk about that. But today I couldn’t stop wanting to have sex with him he showed me round his new flat when we he went to get his jacket. It was so awkward I need to forget about it he’s friends with my boyfriend aghhh so awkward

Juts to clear up what I said we never had sex but I wanted too first time in 3 year of knowing him I felt the need I guess I’m just sexually frustrated

Well then you haven't actually got yourself into a real pickle yet. You've not acted on your feelings. Maybe avoid the friend for now though as it's dangerous territory if these feelings are developing. Does he feel the same way do you think?

I have no clue how he feels he likes to meet up a lot but I always

On a mutual bases of us wanting to spend time with my partner and him being so busy so we agree to meet together things like cinema or IKEA

The desire to have sex with someone else is very likely just be the natural result of not being happy in your primary relationship.

For the sake of your own mental health, get that relationship sorted one way or another before you start another.

I have no clue how he feels he likes to meet up a lot but I always

Does it matter he feels?

It's not wrong to fancy other people. It would be wrong to keep getting close to him.

You need to end your relationship if you arent happy.

But how he feels doesnt matter. You wouldnt really dump you partner and then hook up with his best friend would you?

I would take a step back; if your feelings aren’t reciprocated then you’ll just get hurt and if they are then it would be too messy while you’re still living with your (ex or is he still your boyfriend)? Once you’re living separately you can decide what to do.

Yes still my boyfriend I want things to work out with him but after talking last night I don’t think I will ever get as much sex as I want I’m in the process of new job hunting and house is getting done up will wait till October when that’s done and decide what to do will be a long old summer but I do still love him

So yesterday the relationship was shit and he was moving out (eventually?!)
Today you love him and want to work things out?
Only you don’t. You’ve shagged his mate so clearly don’t love or respect him much. You sound very immature.
Split and stay single. Stop waiting for some distant inheritance and start acting with some self respect.

@Wolfiefan she hasn't had sex with his friend

You do need to RTF properly Wolfie before you say things like that.

Yeah the relationship is shit and hit rock bottom he’s stressed at work I’ve Been I’ll im hopeful we can work it out That’s all