I don't know where to begin with this really and feel totally stupid for getting into this. I don't want to drip feed, so in a nutshell I have a friend who I have known since childhood. she has always been incredibly offensive at times...not just to me but to others.
you are probably wondering why I am even friends with her...I suppose because we were "best friends" since day one and as a very little girl we had a lot of nice times. as you grow up there's that loyalty and you sort of let things pass...before you know it you realise as an adult she's bang out of order to say some things she says. again like I say, I query the friendship!
I pulled away from her in the last couple of years...one of those people who is always busy, has to fit you in etc. however, last year her long term partner broke up with her. lot of devastation and tears, I was there for her, thought that maybe having shown her that I was being a good friend that the friendship would begin to evolve again. during this time she asked me to go on a holiday with her that had been booked with her ex and part paid for. it was expensive and she wanted to salvage it. I said yes - somewhrre I have always wanted to go and im single and it is hard to find people to go away with!
since then I have paid a LOT of money to her for this trip (it is a big one). but...and here is the thing...since she has been back in my life a bit more I have realised she's not changed at all and in fact the hope I had that she may be a little more grown up these days was misplaced. if anything she seems worse, or maybe im no longer used to it. she's made comments about my house being small (it isn't), in a bad area (it's not), not being "commercial aware" (my job depends on this and she knows it!)...the list goes on really. small remarks and I am not bothered by them in the sense that I feel upset...it is just really ducking pissing me off. now and then I have called her out on it, said "oh that;s a nice comment"...but it continually happens and i have no doubt that it will carry on no matter what i said.
i am now questioning the entire trip as i will be with her constantly. the complicating factor is that my family know hers and although my mum has said pull out if i want to, it will effectively end my friendship with her forever and make things awkward for my mum (although my mum has similar feelings towards my friend's mum!!).
i wouldn't get any of the money back. at this point though im starting to think my sanity is more important.
this is a rant...if you've managed to get to the end, thank you! just feeling a bit fed up and not sure what to do.