Married 20 yrs, finally had a lightbulb moment a couple of years ago & challenged him on his lack of respect & silent treatment (among other things). He’s had counselling which I wasn’t allowed to ask him about as it wasn’t about ‘us’ - although it was started with a view to helping the relationship after being suggested during joint counselling. We are supposed to be making a go of things after very nearly going our separate ways a few months ago. I was the one who panicked & said let’s try. I just don’t feel like he’s made any effort. This weekend alone he sent me a passive aggressive text about something then put the phone down on me when I rang to explain. Today I felt a bit fluey but suggested doing something as it’s bank holiday. No real enthusiasm from him. Then this afternoon he’s gone to the pub to sort something with a mate & comeback nearly 4 hrs later! Got annoyed when I said it was a bit much. Just now I smashed something when emptying the dishwasher & he’s just sat at the other end of the kitchen- didn’t even look up to see what it was, let alone if Im ok. Does it seem to you like he basically doesn’t give a sh*t??