Hello there! I'm at a loss for where to talk about this as I can't think of another forum with a predominantly female member base. And it's womens advice/point of view I'm after.
So then, I'm a man. I'm generally shy/awkward/anxious around most people, but especially women I find attractive. I can't flirt. When women have flirted with me I've only ever clammed up and mumbled incoherently. Either that or I've just ignored it completely.
I'm a postie. So I often deal with members of public. Most recently I delivered a parcel to a pub and this gorgeous woman behind the bar beamed at me and I said something jokingly, acting mildly flirtatious. It totally caught me off guard and I just said whatever nonsense came to mind, which as usual was a bit 'off'/irrelevant, I started getting a bit flustered and got her to sign for it quickly and I promptly left. Sitting in my van I was cringing, repeated to myself whatever dumb thing I said to her in a sarcastic voice and just said "what was that you f*ing knob?!".
It happens so often in my line of work, I'll deal with someone I fancy but I can never pluck up the courage to even really talk to them. There's someone I fancy at work too but I've only ever had one brief conversation with her. She of course would have no idea I'm interested.
sigh the eternal struggle of being a human...
Erm, anyway, yes, this is me more venting than anything, but I do have questions! So...how do I show I'm interested in you lovely women creatures? What attracts you to men? If you can tell some guy is shy or awkward does that put you off him? How did you end up with your current partner and who initated things?
Thanks in advance 