Have you had a friendship breakup that felt like a relationship breakdown?

[DontFearTheReaper]

Fallen out with a very close friend and I just heard a song that reminded me of our friendship and just felt really sad, like I couldn’t imagine going through the rest of my life and her not being there - she lives abroad now so even if we make it up I won’t see her often. I’ve split up with boyfriends before and not felt as blue!

Anyone else?

Also I did find out the reason why the friendship broke down about a year after as at the time my friend wouldn’t talk about it. I didn’t find it that helpful though as I strongly felt that if my friend had talked to me about what upset her at the time things could have been a lot different but I also felt that the reason she gave didn’t really explain it and wasn’t really “good enough”. I think I thought our friendship was stronger and could withstand more than it could in reality

dont yep it was really odd!!

It's oddly unacknowledged, isn't it - the heartbreak of the end of platonic relationship? My closest friend distanced herself for a while (we seem to be over it) because she was cross with me - it's long and complicated. And my response really took me aback - I was so upset, more upset than I've been over the end of quite significant romantic relationships. I'd taken the friendship for granted - until I thought it was over, I hadn't realised how much she was a massive part of my life.

I had a very close friend for years - one day she ghosted me over something I thought was very minor. I was hurt then angry and when she finally got in touch I was proud and still angry (and she wasn't sorry at all, in fact she blamed me) so I declined to see her to discuss it. That was the last time we spoke 3 years ago. I was fucking cut up about it for months but I got over it in the end. It was worse than any break up other than my divorce.

2 years ago for me and I was devastated. The worst bit was that she’d spent months befriending friends of mine and when we came to part ways, she took my friends with her! I didn’t see it coming. When I first met her she had no friends and I practically handed her a social life on a plate. I’ll never ever trust anyone again after what she put me through. I’ll be friends but I’m never going to let anyone get that close to me again. She ripped my heart out. I’d always wanted a best friend and I thought I’d found one. She really did see me coming. Even now, a couple of years later, I’m still feeling angry about it.