I'd offer you a cup of tea but there's no milk

[TheLastNigel]

I've been up since 2 am, insomnia and arthritis keeping me awake. I'm really knackered.
DP comes down at about 9 and says 'I'd offer you a cup of tea but there's no milk'

There is a Shop, open, a 4 minute drive away. Would it be unreasonable for me to think he would take it upon himself to go and get some milk?

He's now gone back to bed.

I'm feeling sorry for myself I think and prepared to be told so-but it's really pissed me off. I will go and get the sodding milk....

Yes, I’m sorry but my DH would, without even mentioning it, have gone out for milk. And would probably have come back with croissants too.

It’s time for a conversation. “If you had been up half the night and were obviously feeling under the weather, I would take care of you, not go back to bed. I do not feel cared for because you do not help enough around the house and you do not go out of your way to do caring things from me. This doesn’t feel like an equitable relationship”. His response will tell you what you need to know.

He's selfish and thoughtless and people on here saying you want him to read your mind, they don't expect people to run around after them etc need a word with themselves.

He'd gone back upstairs before I could ask him to go to the shop...
Unless he moves at warp speed, you could have asked him.

But, he was a twat for not going in the first place.

There's a reason married men and single women are happier than single men and married women - and here we have the reason why!

^^

Never heard this before but I LOVE it!

Your ex was selfish and unfortunately for you , you have simply gone onto choose another selfish individual, albeit of a different type, but selfish all the same. I was not at all surprised to read that you have had to ask him to help (ie pull his weight) around the house too. He is slack in that area too because he sees that as your role, not his.