Im 32,married 5 years and I have an ok relationship with my mum but recently I feel like she is being over controlling and it makes me want to not discuss things with her.Im considering moving away to another country,2 hours away to get some work at the end of June for around 2 weeks as work in my trade is drying up.My mum is telling me,no you cant leave your husband etc ad every time I ring her about something trivial like whether Im coming out for dinner soon or if Ive got any news she brings this up and ends up telling me off..My husband is fine with it and knows Im not doing a runner or anything.I feel like Im mature enough to make these choices for myself without my mums interference..Also I m having some negative feelings come up about her lately as regards the way I was raised..I was made to sleep in same bed as my Dad til I was 14 as was 6 other children in my house,all of who had shared bedrooms and later when an extension was built on my Dad moved there and I finally had my own room..This was awkward for me and I remember feeling really anxious about it in my teens..So I feel like my mum had favoritism towards the other children,though she probably did do her best to make it work for a big family..Not sure why but I seem to be taking this personally and this is 20yrs on..How do I deal with such negative thoughts ??