He's been cheating from the start

[arisfurwi]

I feel like the last few years have been a lie. I don't even know who he is. All exposed after he was caught messaging another girl in January, he pleased depression, cried his eyes out and promised therapy, and then he started being secretive with his phone so I went on it. So many girls have crawled out of the woodwork, from our entire relationship. I've kicked him out obviously. we have 2 beautiful girls together, 6&2. What do I tell them? I feel absolutely devastated.

What a repulsive specimen...

Its amazing how many people suddenly claim depression when theyre caught with their pants down.

Depression has absolutely nothing to do wirh a persons ability to keep their cock in their trousers.

Tell them daddy is working away for a while....

"The truth will set you free, but first it will piss you off"

I was all ready with a flippant reply until you revealed your DC ages.

What have you told them so far? If "daddy is working away" is working right now then Id stick with that

Oh dear OP,

The same thing has literally happened to me as well!

Cheating through the entire duration of our relationship and we have one DS.

Going to have to sell our beautiful house and the lot.

I don’t really have any advice for you but just wanted to send you love and a hand hold as I know how you feel right now.

I posted a thread on a similar subject and had lots of lovely advice.

Some of the advice on here that I’ve had and listened to and put into action are:

• Do something for yourself (nails, hair done, a new look).
• Look after yourself, eat healthy, exercise.
• Spend time with friends and hobbies.
• Stay away from dating for now.

Is he visiting the kids? As I feel ok for the most part until he picks up DS and it just breaks me.

Just try and keep busy, and don’t let him talk his way into another chance with you!

Thank you all for responding. I just feel sick at the moment, a pit in my stomach that won't go. Think it's just disbelief of what's happened to my life, looking at engagement rings and planning to build our new house, then 4 days later my life blew up. Yes luckily thanks to his job he he has to run out in the night so will go with saying he's at work. He was nice when he thought there was a chance, trying to cry and cuddle. But has since turned now he knows there's no chance. Have got hair all booked next week though! Can't wait. Love that quote though, think I'll be living by that!

Glad you’re getting your hair done :) sounds really cliche (pamper yourself!) I was a bit like eugh at first but I’ve had a bit of pampering myself and it’s actually helped. Even if it was just a little bit. I think with things like getting pampered you’re actually practising self care which is SO important right now. Because you’ve probably spent the last few years running around after him and neglecting your own wants and needs.

Have you thought about the gym? Or running? I pretend that the punch bag at the gym is ex’s face

Yes I had considered the gym actually! Dd has started nursery so that gives me a bit of free time around work. He came around today crying when he realised I really wasn't taking him back, tried to kiss me and went as far as to try and have sex, I pushed him away and his sadness just turned to anger. Repulsive

That’s bloody horrible. Awful creature! You’ve dodged a bullet you really have!