Do you always agree on parenting?

[Hidethesausage]

Just listening to my DH shouting at DS7 to go to bed. DS is crying and crying 'I want Mummy' but DH is saying 'It's me or nobody who puts you to bed'. When I was little, my parents would always want to be the one who put me to bed not one who didn't. Do other people have moments when they seriously doubt their partners parenting? Or is this a bad sign that my heart is just sinking and I feel so sad for DS?

Why is he screaming at a crying exhausted child?! That’s horrible. Why don’t you go to him and tell your husband to calm the fuck down if he can’t control himself?

I can’t imagine any couple who always agrees, we don’t, but I’d have little respect for a grown adult threatening a seven year old.

I'd have gone straight up there and intervened.

We don't always agree, but on minor details such as can they have another ice lolly and the like but we do on the big stuff.

In that situation, I would have gone up and told him to leave the room, why the need to shout? It will only make it worse.

In regards to your question, no I don't always agree with DH's parenting and vice versa. There are lines we don't cross/won't tolerate being crossed like smacking but in general we do have a difference of opinion on some matters - yesterday for example, DS wouldn't eat his tea (he's 4) so I told him he'd get nothing else because this is tea like it or lump it. An hour later DH made him some toast because he was hungry, I didn't agree because I'd already said no but there was no point arguing it when DS has DH wrapped round his finger.

DH is also shit at bed time, thinks playing games and making him laugh is the way to do it because he 'likes to put him to bed laughing and smiling' except doesn't seem to understand that doing this keeps him away way past bedtime and I'm the one who has to deal with a grumpy child in the morning! I'd love to ay and extra game before bed but I quietly and calmly read a story because we'll, I'm not a fucking idiot!

I should imagine a lot of content is missing here, so I will simply say no, you don't have to always agree on parenting.

What you should do though is discuss anything that makes you uncomfortable and together you should aim to compromise or talk about a different tact.

Before everyone jumps on your OH, I will just remind people that everyone has had shit days, and sometimes we aren't great parents.