Meet the Other Phone. Child-safe in minutes.

Meet the Other Phone.
Child-safe in minutes.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Relationships

Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody

Struggling with separation

2 replies

tomcat · 26/05/2019 00:20

Long post.. Sorry. I took decision to separate from my hubby a month ago after I found out something he had been doing that is not appropriate for a married man. Don't want to go into details.
Anyway, I can't decide what to do. I feel like I am on a roller-coaster. Staying at a friend's house whilst he is at home with children (aged 13 and 17). We agreed he would stay in house to keep things stable for him as he has a pressurised job and I don't work at moment. He's a great dad. It's complicated. He doesn't want the separation but I am trying to get over what he has done. He can be moody, like Jekyll and Hyde. One day he's nice and then he gets in mood. I've told him I want us to be on good terms whilst we sort things out. I go home during the day but leave when he gets home. Anyway, he's asked me back for dinner a few times and to go out. So I have gone, but he ends up moody and I leave as I get worried about what he might do.
I don't think I should go back, but I just want to be at home with my children. I could try and force him out, but I know he won't leave and he'd come back and cause a scene. I don't like confrontation.
Every day I make a different decision about what to do. None of the options seem great for me. I can't stay at my friend's house forever. If I rent I can only afford rent out of the area, and I don't want to leave. It eels like a mess and I just don't know what to do.

OP posts:
HennyPennyHorror · 26/05/2019 05:06

Why should he have the benefit of the home? I presume you own it? He's the one who did the bad thing! Move back in and start proceedings for divorce and the sale of the house.

Londongirl888 · 26/05/2019 08:26

Really difficult to advise without all the facts. Get back he needs to move out. Spend your time finding some where for him. Can he not move with his friends / family as a temp measure. Sounds like you don't want to continue with the relationship.

New posts on this thread. Refresh page