Does anyone else lose interest in partner when premenstrual?

[nicelyneurotic]

Just that really.

In the week before my period I really can't be bothered with my boyfriend. I lose interest to the point where I really don't care either way if in a relationship or not.

I ended my last relationship, not just because of this, but always blowing hot/cold did make me question whether the relationship was right for me. But now I feel exactly the same toward my new partner who I like a lot more (when it's not my TOTM).

We are going out tonight. He's booked something quite late and I really can't be bothered to go or see him and feel tired and indifferent. But know if I cancel it's out of order and I'll regret it in a week's time.

Anyone else feel like this? How do you stop it affecting relationships?

Why not Try been honest and tell him the truth.

I find lies just make things worse.

Just tell him

Tell him that one week a month I can't be bothered to see him? I don't think that'll go down well

I do know what you mean but I don't think I experience it as extremely as you do. Also, I don't get it just with just my SO, I feel that way about everyone when I'm feeling that way. Can't be bothered visiting anyone, less inclined to answer texts IYSWIM? I just feel very hollow and want to climb into bed alone. Is it just your partner you feel this way about?

When I feel this way I just don't make any plans or if I've already said I'd see someone I'll just say I'm feeling a bit rubbish can we have a night in instead or ask to reschedule. Have you talked to your partner about how you feel? Chatting it through might help.

PMS.

Some women consider splitting up for those two weeks or so every month.

We've only been together 3 months. I don't want to ruin my relationships but feel like I'm not ready to bring it up. I think I'll take your advice and explain im just feeling a bit rubbish. I'm not horrible or angry or anything, just like I really can't be bothered.

I feel exactly the same. I feel as though I pick fights and don’t care what happens. I find my PMS is better when I eat a more balanced diet.

Personally I think he would prefer the honesty. I certainly would.
He can plan a night on his own or with his mates and going forward when you are together he will know it's because you want to be with him and it's not just out of a sense of duty.

What type of contraception are you using, something that stops you from ovulating would've worth trying if not using it already.

Also vit. B6, calcium, magnesium, iron evening primrose/star flower oil and some other things I can't remember but will be online.

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There are 3 or 4 days every month when I could happily kill my husband.

I get it.

It’s the drop in oestrogen. It’s normal in a long term relationship ime but maybe not so much at only the 3 month mark. I would think that if you’re feeling this way now, then it’s not a good sign.

I get this every month. I hate it.

I know how you feel. I get really grumpy, fed up and morose. There are lots of things you can try, I find alone time, sleeping and chocolate help me most.

I’m the same and it continues throughout my period sometimes too. Wish I wasn’t like this, unsure how to stop it.

I know what you mean, but not as extreme. As PP said it’s worth looking into contraception... talk to your GP.

I read something awful (probably here 😄), that oestrogen is a happy mask and when that drops, it's actually how we feel about our partners. 😮😄. Don't believe that per se but I totally know what you mean op. Every month he could do one.

Evening primrose oil. It really does help with the 'I hate everyone and can't be arsed with you' feelings you can get from PMS.

Thanks. Pleased I'm not alone. Will get myself some of those vitamins!