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Do I expose sister's nastiness?

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DesertOrchid558 · 25/05/2019 00:57

Should I expose sister's nastiness?
My oldest sister has always had it in for me throughout my life & sought to put me down. In recent years she has poisoned almost entire family against me & my kids, especially since the death of our mother who used to challenge her & keep her nastiness at bay.
She hated my parents helping me more financially (I was a single parent & ex refused to pay maintenance) even though she was very comfortably off, & made my parents stop helping me & my kids.
Recently I discovered an unopened letter from my mum dating back almost 20 years which enclosed a letter my sister had written about me which was a highly disturbing & vitriolic rant & full of untruths about me, stating she had felt jealous of me since practically my birth & blaming my poor parents for being inadequate. My mum wanted me to see this & I am so sad that I didn't see it at the time, but she had slotted it between the pages of a book she had given me.
I want to show this to the family as I feel it vindicates me & proves that her campaign against me wasn't my doing but was down to her own insecurities in the hope that they re-evaluate their opinion of her & cut me some slack, but wonder is this the right thing to do? I feel I need to expose her for the sake of not only me but more Importantly my poor kids who have suffered through her actions with the damage & rifts she caused. Your guidance & opinions appreciated:)

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mabelmylove · 25/05/2019 01:02

Is your dad still living? I’d show it to him, and maybe other siblings, but probably not extended family

lobsterkiller · 25/05/2019 07:46

Agree with Mabel, speak with your dad. I am sorry you've gone through your whole life with her behaviour.

juliej00ls · 25/05/2019 08:13

No it’s an old letter.... to be honest I suspect everyone can see. I think your energies are better spent on building positive relationships with family members who are willing to reach out to you These relationships need to focus on shared interests not a mutual dislike of your sister. For the record my sister is a bit of a horror but unfortunately my mum is rather supportive of her. It is hurtful but I’ve taken the position of adult and don’t waste energy trying to figure it out.

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