What would you do? Pissed.

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Me and my partner broke up for a little bit and his family booked a holiday to Spain that we've been on for the past 2 years. When we got back together he said he was going to save up so we can go but what he didn't say was that his family said no to me going because of past issues that's are no longer relevant. It's for 2 weeks and he says he's still going so therefore expects me to stay behind with our daughter. I'm pissed. But he said it was already booked so don't matter. (I've already said to his mother about it but she ignores me about the subject)

I have also read your other threads and honestly your issues sound rather severe. This entire relationship sounds toxic and whilst he does have his issues, you also are seriously hard work.

I can completely understand why his family would not want you around if you have created drama in the past, and the fact you keep referring to them as "yes man" people is dreadful. This sort of attitude is probably another reason they do not want you around. They are entitled to a holiday without no drama.

You also need to understand this holiday was booked as a family break whilst you two had ended your relationship, and considering his family is paying and it's their place, they are well within their right to decide they would prefer you not coming along.

You do not live together, so you are capable of coping without him and during your time apart you also managed.

The issues with your relationship run deep, but you will not be in a healthy relationship until you step back and begin to work on and address the problems you have. It is not healthy for your daughter to be raised in a toxic environment.

Please go back to your GP and focus on finding a better route and plan to manage your mental health issues. Focus on becoming stronger and healthier mentally as an individual.

Let them go on their holiday, they are allowed to and this decision was made during a break up. Partners are allowed to spend time with their family, you have been given chances in the past and they were ruined. So you do need to understand that whilst they may be okay with you, it does not mean they're ready to go on holiday with you again.

Take these 2 weeks to go back to the GP and focus on yourself, you cannot continue to live this way, you are affecting your quality of life. There is help out there for you, take the necessary steps for yourself to start a new chapter to a healthier, happier you. Once you are in a better position, you can then work on your relationship.

End it op. It's not a good relationship.

If I've understood correctly, you don't live together and this holiday was booked and paid for by his parents while you were separated. Despite the fact that you've reconciled, his family still don't want you to go due to past issues, including issues that occurred on a previous holiday.

Tbh, whilst it's disappointing for you, I can see their point and would probably do the same in their shoes. Of course they don't want any drama spoiling their family holiday. And, given that you don't live together, why wouldn't he go? It sounds like he's trying to compromise by finding a break with you too.

I’d be telling him not to bother coming back home, he can either go on holiday and stay with mummy or he can man up and take you and your daughter on holiday and you two can stay together. He can’t have the best of both worlds, which is is currently trying to do (be a family man and be a mummy’s boy)

I've just read your other threads op. You say that you've been 'on and off' for four years, that he was with someone else until recently and there seems to be serious issues in the relationship on both sides. I really don't blame his family for not wanting that drama on their holiday. And actually, it sounds so volatile and unhealthy I honestly think you should both call it a day and co-parent.

Book a two week holiday for the same time to somewhere else. It doesn't have to be fancy just somewhere you will enjoy being with your daughter. His family don't sound like much fun anyway.

We do live together now and have done for a little bit. They decided they didn't want me to come after me and my partner got back together. Most of his family are fine with me and the argument that happened in the past holidays were due to him and his mother, which I decided to defend him and got the back lag for. The argument with his grandmother was because he was being abusive to me and she decided in front of the family to bring it up and call me a liar. And she is the one who decided she doesn't want to see me even tho she's only there for the first three days of the two weeks.

I thought I'd just say now that me and my ex OTT we split up. He's asking if we can still be together but live apart and I'm not sure.

Better to just co parent amicably, and let this drama filled relationship go.

You seriously need to step aside and seek help for yourself. You can agree to co-parent amicably, but you need to start taking responsibility for your actions and seek the help you really need. Let this be your focus.

The way things are now is not healthy for your daughter at all.