I really don't want to say it but.....

[Dollygirl2008]

...I told you so???

So, I started posting nearly 4 years ago when my OH of 26 years left me and our DD for another women - moved in with her and her 3 DD, marrying her 2 years later. Mumsnet were great and you all really helped me through the darkest days and the subsequent wedding.

Fast forward 4 years, and they've just split up. I'm furious - mainly because the 4 children involved have all just adjusted - my DD was settled with going there every other weekend, holidays etc and had become friendly with the other 3 DD's. Now she's going to have to get used to going to a dingy flat with no garden every other weekend.

The irony is that I've spent the last few weeks trying to encourage him to go back and have another try!!!!! I almost feel like contacting the OW/wife to get it sorted, but I wont!! How does that happen!!!! I'm concerned now about the fact they're married and how that impacts financially further down the line for our DD, whether she's legally entitled to half even though they're not his children, but I guess that's not actually any of my business. Curious though...

Anyway, just thought I'd post and say that karma does exist..... even if I didn't that to be the outcome

I'm concerned now about the fact they're married and how that impacts financially further down the line for our DD, whether she's legally entitled to half even though they're not his children, but I guess that's not actually any of my business. Curious though...

No, he isn’t responsible for paying maintenance for his ex-wife’s daughters. Obviously if his money comes from interest from savings etc and that is halved, it would have an impact.

Of course your concern should be your concern, but it's not your job to solve your ex's relationship problem.

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Your poor dd

No I realise that, I just wanted them back together as we were all in such a good place (or so I thought!) and more for the children's sake really!

Oh well...

not your business.. look after your own DD OP

It suits you to have them stay together but hardly fair on anyone else.

How does your dd feel about the split? That would be my immediate concern.

She's gutted - she doesn't actually remember us as a couple (she was 6 when we split) so she had really become to see them as her other family

Ah, that's really tough on her :(

A 4 year relationship is pretty long. Some things just don’t work out.

It’s unfortunate for your daughter but it’s hardly a I told you so moment.

Not quite the same, as no OW, we were long over, but I was selfishly sad when my DS dad and his wife divorced, as my DS really liked the family set up (especially the dogs!) .. when his dad was on his own again DS didn't want to see him. So he lost a whole family there.

Unicorn - it is an "I told you so" moment as the reasons for them splitting were pointed out to him way before by several different people. However, I haven't said that to him as we have become friends over the last four years - something we haven't been for a very long time previous

Yep, it's just the children that suffer unfortunately, and I'm going to see if I can maintain some kind of contact betweeen my DD and her step sisters