Matched with guy on OLD about a month ago. Neither of us spring chickens. I work in a different city weekly and matched with him there.
First date, went to a pub. Went Dutch. I got quite tipsy as hadn’t had dinner (stay in hotel so unless I go out to eat it’s difficult to be organised in that respect) and also don’t tend to drink a lot. Date lasted about 7 hours... lots in common and was relaxed. suddenly he kissed me. Hadn’t thought there was much chemistry up until that point as he isn’t my usual type but actually was the best kiss I think I’ve had in my life so was surprised... and after that there was quite a bit more kissing. He walked me home and night ended with goodbyes at my hotel door.
From then until the second date, he instigated all texts and I would say the dialogue is almost daily.
Second date organised by him was pub again. Again, I got v tipsy. Went for cheap but to eat (not at all fancy... think fast foolish) mid way thru as I hadn’t eaten. I paid as he had got drinks. Ended night kissing passionately in the street. Went home separately.
Just about to go on third date. He asked me to stay on an extra night as I was due to leave yesterday. I have done that and have gone to some effort and cost to do this as I have to pay for my own accommodation etc.
The thing is... he tends to text a couple of hours before the date to say “let’s meet in this pub”. I can’t really propose a place as I don’t know where to go as this isn’t my city.
I suspect tonight will go much the same as the others and I’m kind of feeling it’s a bit low investment. Pub again? I have to kind of dress down... as we walk between pubs and I need to wear flat shoes to do that. No nice dressing up etc.
Do you ladiesthink this is low investment if it’s pub again?
I would think at our fairly mature stages in life a little more planning should be done and it’s kind of hard for me to do this because it’s not my area.
Thoughts welcome... I’m feeling quite negative and wondering whether to call it a day. I like him, there’s chemistry but if this date is ANOTHER pub I think I’ll feel a bit meh. However don’t want to be unnecessarily high maintenance! Every possibility I could move here quite easily in the future so while I’m not thinking about it now I don’t necessarily think this issue should be a bar on him investing a little.