Hi, so I am in a relationship with somebody who is generally lovely to me. From when we first met me would go to all lengths to make me feel beautiful and make sure I felt like he wanted to be with me and how much he loved me ect.
Now I am only young and I am looking for advice as I have never been with anyone else (other than an abusive ex who I was with for years).
However I know I'm going to sound crazy when I say this but it just feels like their has been a huge shift in energy and something just doesn't feel right. It just feels like he tried to win me over and now he's got me, he's just not bothered about me, things just aren't how they used to be.
Is this normal?
When we first got together, he told me he worked away every now and again, when in reality he was 100s of miles away most days of the week, he used to just take days off of work and come back home so i didn't know this. This meant I got attached and didn't really know what I was getting myself in for. This meant in reality we could only see each other 2 nights a week if he was able to come home on a weekend and had a 5 night wait to see each other (again, IF he was able to come home the following weekend )Now I know this works for some people and that is fine but it just is not what I would have wanted in a relationship. However for almost a year he told me it was temporary, knowing full well it wasn't and when I mentioned about him finding something closer to home he would get annoyed at me, however would spend his time moaning about his job. He did start a new job this week, obviously I am happy about this and I would never expect somebody to change their job for me, but I just wish he had been honest about working away. I told him for months and months and months that I was wanting to break up as the distance was really hard for me and he said that I did not love him if that's what I thought, however for me the thought of not having to be counting the hours to see somebody would make things easier for me i did find the distance really hard and I was honest with this. However he got the job because he wanted a change not because it was making me upset. However, I had a job he did not like and I found a new job and left the old job within a couple of months of him even mentioning it.
I feel like I'm being really selfish but stuff just is not how it used to be and I know I am not happy but every time I do try to leave and call it a day, he treats me really well again. Why do men do this?
I don't want to be treated like I am gods gift because I know I am now but I just feel like he is not bothered at all about me any more and he loses his temper when I ask if something is wrong, I have told him I just need the reassurance and he's told me I am being stupid.
I feel like I need to mention how I feel to him but I don't know what to say. I feel pathetic I never talk about my feelings because i don't want to hurt his, every time he wants to see my I am there and I feel like I used to spend my days waiting for him to come home because I missed him so much and now he is home he just isn't bothered for me at all. It's really disappointing because I love him so much and I was really excited to have a normal life with him.
We used to talk about marriage and wanted me to come off of my pill and everything's just completely changed and I don't know why
How would you go about this and what are your thoughts