Last night I was in bed with my husband and leaned in for a cuddle. Within seconds he jumped up as he suddenly remembered he'd left something in his case (he'd been away). I usually make a joke about it but this happens frequently when I go to cuddle him there's always something he suddenly remembers he needs to do. Even when we have sex he has to jump up straight away can never just lie in the moment with me.
Last night I decided to bring it up so I said hey is everything ok and he asks what do I mean. I proceeded to say how sometimes I feel when I go in for a cuddle or when we chat you can never sit still there's always something you think of that needs doing straight away.
Somehow this escalated with him saying to me I'm annoyed at you for asking me that. At this point he had his back to me and I was like can you at least look at me when you're talking to me and he's was like no I'm comfier this way. I don't know whether it's because I'm on maternity leave have 3 small children and was feeling neglected but I started crying and this became an issue for him as he then said I don't know what you're crying for. This morning he's still ignoring me but saying that I didn't initiate conversation. I told him when he gets home we are going to talk and he tells me you don't tell me what to do you're not my mum.
A few weeks ago we had another row and we didn't talk for 4 days aside from anything to do with the kids. He goes to work before the kids get up and only get home as they're going to bed so they wouldn't have noticed. I told him it makes me sad when we don't talk as generally it can be sorted out by talking but I recognize we are both stubborn. His response was it doesn't bother him us not talking. He always says stuff like you caused this to me. All I did was ask him was he ok.