I am 33 and own a home with my fiancé who I have been with for 7 years. Recently I have had doubts about continuing with our relationship even though it would be heart breaking for both of us.
We argue at least once a week and some of these are bad arguments that come out of petty small issues such as who fed the dogs. DF is the one who gets heated quickly. I do not like being shouted at so do respond.
I have concerns we are not compatible as currently we do not often agree on what to do or what to watch on tv. I do not think our interests align. He annoys me much more than he is used to.
He also pays me money for food/bills for the month to organise, as he could be trusted with this. He will then ask for small amounts sporadically throughout the month for juice or bits of treat foods, not realising this all adds up and that’s our food shop money because he has run out of his own money. This drives me mad and then because he has used all his money at least half of every month we can’t do anything together (he does not like going for a walk or anything that’s free) or I have to pay for us both if I want to do something together.
I am really exhausted at the moment due to work and I am unsure if I am thinking clearly or if this really is a huge issue, I need time off but I can’t at the moment. We have talked everything through on lots of occasions but not much changes. Despite having these doubts I do love him, and he is kind, funny and helps me in lots of ways. When I think about leaving I cry. However I keep having these doubts creeping in.