Flirting whilst having a boyfriend

[pompeiiorherculaneum]

Alright I'm prepared to get roasted for this. I've been seeing my current boyfriend for two and a half years. Things were going well but the last 6 months have been tough, and he's so grumpy and sensitive to anything I say, get's very jealous and is obsessed with the thought that I think I'm brighter than he is. It's got to the point that it's pushing me away, and I'm questioning whether I'm happy or not.

I went to a networking event the other day and met a very charming man who I've been in contact with since, mainly about work related stuff. Anyway fast forward, this guy has asked me out for a drink, in a flirty way. I've not told him I have a partner. But, why am I so tempted to just go? Obviously I wouldn't do it. But I don't know. I'm just confused.

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Flirting isn't half as bad if you don't intend to do anything sexual
I think everyone flirts to some degree

do you reckon I should just go for the drink or is that cheating?

I wouldn’t go for the drink, as you’re seeing it as a flirtation (and so on).

I do think you need to think carefully about whether you are just looking for a way out of your relationship. Can you talk things through with your boyfriend?

End the relationship.

Hiding the fact you have a partner is already in cheating territory and going for the drink while still attached is taking the piss.

I thought you were supposed to be "bright" op?

You should end your relationship before going on dates with other men.

Don’t go unless you want out of your relationship. If you do, end it.

Do what you really want to do!

End the relationship first, you're clearly not happy.

You sound quite young - Ditch the grumpy boyfriend and enjoy your life!

@shakeitofff The worse advice and reasoning I have ever heard.

So you go but your not interested = leading him on

Basically you are testing him out to see if you want to Persue more, but you can't just dump your boyfriend if there's no spark there just yet.

Why don't you try and figure out what you really want and if you want to be with your boyfriend. If your not happy make a clean break. Nothin wrong with that.

Do you live together, have kids. Much easier to leave now. The next thing you know it's 5 years later, you have a mortgage and kids with a man you don't even like, who is grumpy, spends all hu time playing Xbox, out with his mates or falling asleep on the sofa with his hand down his pants after a good scratch.

You can talk to you bf and see where that gets you but sometimes relationships run their course. Unless you have kids there is no point trying to flog a dead horse.

No harm in having a break either.

That's nothing wrong with having a flirt, I'm notorious for it. But the problems start when you hide stuff, like not telling the guy you have a boyfriend, but more importantly, not taking your boyfriend you're going for a drink, have you told him?

Be honest, why do you want to go for this drink, to develop a friendship/professional relationship, or did the guy make you feel good in a way your boyfriend hasn't got a while? Take a serious look at your relationship and your wants before you do anything else.

Telling not taking

Flirting with a random person is ok. Flirting with someone you will see again or planning to meet that person is not ok.

Either dump boyfriend or work on the relationship. Don't test the waters elsewhere then decide that isn't fair.

I flirt with most people as its just my nature. But it is wholly innocent and I'm very clear about the fact that I have a partner and we're very happy together.

On the numerous occasions a man has indicated that there's more for them than playful banter, I've reiterated that I'm not and I've backed right off.

Are you considering this because you like this man, because you want to leave your partner or are you just flattered by the attention and he could really have been anyone? Going for a drink in itself isn't cheating, no. But the guy is clearly seeing is as a date sort of thing. And it's obviously a slippery slope from there.

Would you be telling your partner about it?

I'm not a first time poster @ShatnersWig . I name changed for obvious reasons, so you can be off with your troll hunting hobby else where.

That's not flirting OP, that's going on a date 😂

It sounds like you're not happy at all in your current relationship. I'd just end that and then go on the date

Go Christ sake don’t go for the drink unless you want to be that shitty person
Just grow some balls and tell you’re boyfriend it’s over

Shatner gives very good advice on here ad I actually thought the same

Stop stringing your boyfriend along. Finish it and go on your date.
Your (soon to be ex) boyfriend isn't your backup plan. If he has any sense he'll get rid of you first. Nobody needs this kind of shit in their life.

do you reckon I should just go for the drink or is that cheating?
Do you really need to ask? What are you? 12?