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Does anyone else seem to go for the 'bad boy' instead of the nice guy?

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seriouslylong · 22/05/2019 21:31

So I haven't been dating for a while, and I've decided to start again. I went online and started chatting to a few guys. One guy I am meeting on Friday, he seems very nice and sweet.

Also another guy that I met ages ago who kinda messed me around got in contact and asked me to meet up. I haven't said yes or no but I feel like I'm more interested in this trouble maker guy than I am in the nice guy.

So I went through this "going for bad boys" thing for years a long time ago, but I met a really lovely guy who I was madly in love with but unfortunately it didn't work out.

I'm wondering if I'm kinda leaning towards the not so nice guy because I'm just plain crazy or because maybe I'm trying to avoid getting hurt Hmm

Obviously I know I can and probably will get hurt with the not so nice guy but it doesn't hurt anywhere near as much as a nice guy hurting you.

Anyway just wondering if anyone else is like this? And if you know why? And also any good books that might deal with these type of issues I could read which might help me identify what I'm doing and hopefully stop it!!

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Clubbercised · 29/05/2019 14:18

Really interesting thread! I don't tend to go for "bad boys" and never have.

I know many women who do though and it causes all sorts of drama and heartache for them.

BlackPrism · 29/05/2019 20:12

I think it's hormonal/animal - bad boy is more violent/ dangerous so can protect you and your young. Sadly in humans you usually just get battered.

wishywashy6 · 29/05/2019 20:30

Clue's in the word 'boy' - I've always found them to be boring, egotistical and predictable wankers

A nice, honest, loyal man with his shit together is far more attractive IMO

Reenascreena · 29/05/2019 20:36

No. Only women with pathetically low self-esteem go for his kind of low-grade dickheadery and think they like it.

nannytothequeen · 29/05/2019 21:13

I used to when I was younger and it was almost certainly about self esteem. I married a 'nice' guy. But he still cheated and betrayed me in the end. Nowadays I find it safer to give none of them my trust.

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