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Friend keeps dating crap men

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Nomintrude · 22/05/2019 20:56

One of my best friends consistently dates guys who are awful. One who constantly put her down and lied to people about her because he was embarrassed that her job wasn't high status enough for him (so he claimed she did something else and she had to go along with this as work dos etc), another she got together with while abroad and suffering a bad relapse with her mental illness which led to her being hospitalised. He came over to the UK and they were talking about getting married so he could stay in the country. She says he stayed with her and never lifted a finger while she paid for everything. He was also quite 'creepy' towards me. Eventually she broke up with him. The latest guy she's with seems to be gay and in the closet - long story but he met a man off tinder 'as friends', who is openly gay and likes him, they (her bf and the other man) spend a lot of time together including sleepovers where apparently nothing happens! She was planning to break up with him but he talked her round. She was sexually assaulted by another guy who claimed it was an accident, another one wanted to borrow a lot of money from her. She's very well educated and well off financially but she tends to be very naive and trusting and keeps choosing to date men who basically take advantage of her and don't have a lot to offer really. The whole thing worries me a lot as she's not very happy, wants to be in a relationship but seems to repeat the same patterns over and over again. As her friend it's really sad to see this happening but she doesn't seem to have the ability to see what's happening. It's like she's stuck in quite an emotionally mature state and keeps seeking out men who are maybe quite 'fit', not that nice and hardly anything in common with her! Is there anything I can say or do to help??

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