Hi MNetters
Just need a bit of clarity on this and don’t really have anyone else to turn to.
I have been with my partner for 4 yrs, the beginning was great he treated me well and we had a real laugh. However in the last few years I feel like a level of disrespect has crept in. Such as:
- Telling me he is going to b*tch slap me when I say no to a request. But covered as a joke.
- Statements such as a women’s place is in
the kitchen. Again, joke.
- Telling his friends about my boob job.
- Also telling friends about are sex lives.
- Another man found me attractive and he said that this guy must be blind.. another ‘joke’.
- Asking me for sex and when I say I’m not in the mood telling me that I can just lay there.
- Referring to me as his ‘side piece’.
All of these he says are just jokes, that I’m too sensitive. Which I don’t think I am, I just think there is a level of respect that should be present! My problem is I can’t seem to leave him. Maybe I’m just trying to understand why he is treating me this way. When the behaviour first started I went to have the ‘talk’ to break it off and he begged me not to and that he’d change so it’s confusing.. if he didn’t want me he would have said ok let’s break up. And the other part is why do I need his validation for a break up.. it should be enough that I am unhappy, yet here I am.