ExP and how he treats DD!

[Isitover12]

So I recently left my somewhat emotionally abusive ex partner. He has been seeing DD at my parents house but I think I should suggest that he get some parenting classes.

The other day DD was sick, vomiting and the ex decided to hold her away from him at an angle that meant she wasn’t able to be sick easily causing her to gag and almost chock all because he didn’t want to have any sick on him. He also doesn’t seem to be able to put her nappy on correctly, either does it too tight or just completely mispostioned.

Do you think I should suggest parenting classes? Or would I unreasonable to suggest this?

How old is dd?

7 months.

Sorry posted too soon, she is 7 months.

Did you kindly correct him when you saw how he held her. Is it ignorant neglectful behaviour, or genuinely trying but not quite getting it right. Does he just need a bit more time being hands on to learn stuff, like we all do?

@Desmondo2016, I would lean to say neglectful. DD looked like she was going to be sick so he handed her to me as he didn’t want her throwing up on him. Which she did, bless her, I asked him to take her and strip her down but he just held her like she was diseased ( under the armpits held out, not the most comfortable position especially when feeling ill ). Anyway I sorted out DD then myself and asked that exp put on her clothes.. at this point she was sick again which is when he held her at an angle.

With the being hands on, while together I really encouraged him to be hands on. Didn’t work obviously. Now I’m really trying to push it but I don’t want anything happen to DD because he simply couldn’t be arsed!

If you trust him to have her then I think you'll have to let him learn his own way and get on with it. If you don't trust him to have her, then at 7 months I would be very very over protective of my baby and no one I didn't trust would be going anywhere near her, father or not!