Addictions? Just being a dick?

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Bit of a weird one but stick with it- So basically I've had anxiety for as long as I remover but it's increasingly worse lately. It's effecting me in many ways and after a long day I just wanted to chill so I'd order myself take out( same in every time) daughter gets it sometimes and it became more often. I've always had a problems with fizzy drinks- it's effecting my health. However Ive found out lately that it's an addiction. Me and my partner are arguing constantly anyway but he said he don't know whether he wants to be with me anymore because I disgust him and I'm a fat pig and I'm killing his child even though she doesn't have it much. He does support me sometimes but 9/10 I have to hide it from him if I don't want an argument. Do I have a right to be angry with him for not being more supportive.

Oh dear

Have you thought about seeing the gp about your health issues ?

His name calling was unreasonable and unnecessary.

On the other hand, what actions have you taken to address your problems/improve your dd's diet?

I think it depends on how often you have take aways, what type of takeaways you get and what you feed your daughter when she doesn't have take aways? Where's her dad in all this, does he get involved in feeding her/do you eat together as a family?

So you have health problems, eat crap and drink loads of fizzy pop, know its not helping but carry on doing it and instilling the same lifestyle into your child?

Is that what you are saying?

I am doing counselling and I am under a specialist also who aren't overly concerned right now but have expressed worries for the future for me. My daughter diet is not bad at all, she has a take out every now and then never as often as me I think he's just using it as an excuse to dig at me, i would never risk my child's health and he knows it.

Also, I usually have it once she's in bed, her dad isn't here all day he's gone before she wakes up and gets back just as she's going to bed.

If he gets back just as she is going to bed, and you hide it from him. She must be up the majority of the time.

If you believe you have a addiction to takeaways and fizzy pop, dont let your dd become addicted too.

How old is dd?

@Icandothisallday 2 years old

Also I am aware it's not healthy but I feel he could be more supportive and believe that his daughter is not having it to. Instead of having a go at every little thing we eat, even when it's not take out or fizzy drinks. It's hard to get out of something you've gotten yourself into when it's become a coping mechanism

Tbf she shouldn’t be eating takeaways and fizzy drinks aged 2.

You're feeding fizzy drinks to a 2 year old? Pack it in.

www.whattoexpect.com/toddler-nutrition/drinks-for-toddlers.aspx

He sounds like an unsupportive dick

@Knewyouwerewaiting @Tableclothing

No way do I give my child fizzy drinks!!! She has the away over now and then like maybe 1/2 a fortnight she only ever drinks, black current juice( with meals) and water the rest of the time.

Take away every now and then* excuse my typing fast.

I have been on your other threads.

He is a dick. You have been told numerous times but you insist you cant live without him.

You have some mental health issues and also seem to have some habits that dont help.

They will all be easier if you stop seeing him. But you wont.

You say she only has some if she is up and hide it from him. But he gets in as she is going to bed. So she must be up when you order most of the time.

End it with him and get well. For your daughters sake. I know you want a different answer. That's nor going to happen

Your partner is being extremely unkind - and I would say abusive - by name calling and shaming you. As you say your addiction has come from underlying anxiety, he is hardly being a support to you for these issues by name calling.

You have posted in relationships because you want advice about your relationship (not about your DD so other posters need to back off about that - you have clearly stated that she only has the takeaway occasionally). Your relationship does not sound healthy or happy.

What do you want to happen next? For him to change? Unlikely. Or for you to find the strength and resources to end the relationship? Do-able.

1 or 2 takeaways a fortnight? That’s up to 52 a year.

@Knewyouwerewaiting I've stated repeatedly that it's only occasionally . The 1/2 a fortnight is a guess because I know she has it when she she stays with her nans. I am overly anxious and especially about the health of my child. I stated before what drinks she had also, this is advice was offered by the dentist, I am in contact still with my family nurse who says the food consumption is healthy for her( from what I give her) this post was to ask advice about my relationship. No offence to you but I know what I'm doing with my child and due to my anxiety I ALWAYS get advice from a medical professional,